Category Archives: child abuse

PTSD as an Outcome of Childhood Abuse

Originally, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder was recognized and diagnosed in returning war veterans.  Now, it is recognized as an outcome from a traumatic situation. In fact, new research postulates that PTSD can result from events that may not seem too … Continue reading

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The Last 3 Characteristics of Adult Children

We have reached the last 3 characteristics of adults raised in emotionally barren families. 1. Are super responsible or super irresponsible. 2. Are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved. 3. Are impulsive. They … Continue reading

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From 4 Roles to 3 Rules

Parents are emotionally unavailable because of an issue in their life which the spouse wants resolved.  For example, a mother works full time plus.  She is successful in her job but works nienty hours a week.  Everyone wants to see … Continue reading

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The Mascot: Using Humor to Cover Pain

The last of the four roles is the Mascot.  As mentioned, this learned behavior uses humor and fun to offset the stress of the family situation.  It looks like fun but all is not happiness and roses, for the humor … Continue reading

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The Lost Child: Finding The Way Back from Emptiness

A family where the parents are emotionally absent (whatever the reasons) leaves the children to fend for themselves emotionally.  In learning to cope in a difficult situation with a child’s maturity and knowledge, the siblings often adopt one of four … Continue reading

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The Problem Child – It’s Not All Bad

In every family with an emotionally absent parent, the children learn and adopt one of four roles to deal with the stress and tension in the family.  These roles are the hero, rebel or scapegoat, mascot and lost child. The … Continue reading

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The Family Hero – It’s Not All Good

The Hero or Responsible Child is the first of the learned behaviors of children who grow up with an emotionally absent parent.  When one parent is not providing emotional support to the family and the other parent is focused on … Continue reading

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Physical Abuse, continued

Abuse can happen in any family and to any child.  Socio-economic station, race, religion and culture are irrelevant when talking about the welfare of children.  Sad isn’t it?  A well-educated man or woman, professionally successful, can be an abuser.  And … Continue reading

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9 Steps to Forgiveness

Adults who grow up as abused children have many challenges  in their adult lives.  These symptoms will be discussed in detail in another post.  For victims, it is important that we face what happened to us, learn about its effects … Continue reading

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Physical Abuse of Children

Physical Abuse Is there anything more heart warming than the picture of an adult holding a tiny baby?  Such pictures proliferate our culture. This article, the second of four on child abuse, was particularly hard to write.  Looking at pictures … Continue reading

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